Hollywood decided to celebrate Valentine’s Day, a day that is supposed to be about love, by releasing the movie ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’. This movie is about anything BUT love.
God clearly tells us in His Word what is love:
1Co 13:4 Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride;
1Co 13:5 Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil;
1Co 13:6 It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true;
1Co 13:7 Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things.
1Co 13:8 Though the prophet’s word may come to an end, tongues come to nothing, and knowledge have no more value, love has no end. (BBE)
‘Love is kind’ – sadistic/masochistic sexual practices are NOT love.
‘Love has no envy’ – selfish, jealous possessiveness is NOT love.
‘Love’s ways are ever fair’ – taking sexual pleasure at someone else’s expense is NOT love.
‘Love takes no thought of itself” – selfish sexual practices which do not take into account a partners comfort and enjoyment are NOT love.
‘Love takes no pleasure in wrongdoing’ – sexual satisfaction gained through un-natural, hurtful, and shameful practices is NOT love.
God meant sex to be part of a loving relationship between a husband and wife. A relationship that is based on mutual respect and the selfless desire to please one another.
1Co 7:3, 4 Let the husband give to the wife what is right; and let the wife do the same to the husband. The wife has not power over her body, but the husband; and in the same way the husband has not power over his body, but the wife.
God is very clear about how a man should treat a woman.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, …
Eph 5:28, 29 So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord loves the church.
Sadomasochistic sex is NOT loving “as the Lord loves the church”!
And ladies – we were created to be a ‘help-mate’ to our husbands, NOT a sex toy or slave to his selfish desires!
Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
As Christians, we need to take a stand for what is right, good and pure.
Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
We need to be “salt and light” in this sinful world.
Mat 5:13-16 Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men. Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
This is my prayer for us:
Php 1:9, 10 And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ;
I am including links to two other blog posts that I thought were well written on this subject. I thank those authors.