In Kathryn Stockett’s book entitled, “The Help”, Abilene, an African American maid tells Mae Mobley, the little daughter of her white employer – “You is kind, you is smart, you is important”. The mother of little Mae had very little time or affection for her daughter. The little girl did not fit in with her mother’s idea of southern grace, charm and beauty. Abilene loves the child and takes it upon herself to impress upon Mae that she is a good person and worthy of love.
How many of us need to hear those words “You is kind, you is smart, you is important” spoken over us?
I have struggled with the issues of low self-esteem, insecurity and fear of rejection for most of my life. And although I know my mother loved (and loves) me, and gave me encouragement and praise, I still never felt quite good enough. And I know that I am not the only one who suffers in this way.
My 23 year old step-daughter has come to live with us for a month while she is doing a job placement for her college program. She is fun-loving, enthusiastic, intelligent, idealistic and hardworking. She is much loved and supported by her parents. She has all these great qualities yet she walks around under a great black cloud of fear, doubt, low self-esteem and great insecurity.
Where does all this harmful, negative “baggage” come from? We have an enemy!
Eph 6:12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the world’s rulers, of the darkness of this age, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Our enemy will use any and all tactics, such as fear, self-doubt, condemnation, self-criticism, self consciousness and poor self-esteem to wear us down, wound us and make us weak. His ultimate goal is to destroy us.
Joh 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and to destroy.
When God first created Man, He was pleased with what He saw.
Gen 1:27 And God created man in His image; in the image of God He created him. He created them male and female.
When you read Genesis chapter 1, you will see that when God created something, “He saw that it was good”. You know – “God don’t make no junk!” So initially, Man was created perfect and beautiful, inside and out, in the eyes of God. But then along came that “one bad apple”! (Actually, it was “one bad snake” and the type of fruit is not named in the Bible)
It was after Adam and Eve had disobeyed God and had eaten the forbidden fruit, that fear and self-consciousness first formed in their minds and hearts.
Gen 3:7 And the eyes of both of them were opened. And they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made girdles for themselves.
Gen 3:9, 10 And Jehovah God called to Adam and said to him, Where are you? And he said, I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I am naked, and I hid myself.
Naked and afraid – isn’t that one of our worst nightmares? To be found naked, whether physically, emotionally or spiritually, fills us with fear.
BUT – there is “Good News”! We don’t have to remain in the state of “naked and afraid” because God sent His Son Jesus to deliver us from fear and all the baggage that goes along with it.
Luk 9:56 For the Son of Man has not come to destroy men’s lives, but to save.
Joh 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
When you accept Jesus as your Savior, you “put off the old man” with his burdens of fear and condemnation. In Jesus, you become “a new creation”.
Eph 4:24 And you should put on the new man, who according to God was created in righteousness and true holiness.
When you accept Jesus, you “put on” his heart – “You is kind”.
When you accept Jesus, you “put on” his mind – “You is smart”.
When you accept Jesus, you “put on” his kinship and inheritance – “You is important”.
Remember, if you have accepted Jesus as your Saviour, then you are a child of God and God loves you very much!